The words, permanently
Language is the same discipline applied to your own charting. Every phrase on the left is how a patient becomes untreatable to the next twenty clinicians who read the chart.
a schizophrenic
a person with schizophrenia
a borderline
a person with borderline personality disorder
an addict, an abuser
a person with a substance use disorder
committed suicide
died by suicide
a successful or failed attempt
a suicide attempt
dirty urine / clean urine
toxicology screen positive for opioids / negative for all substances
committed to hospital
admitted involuntarily, detained under the state statute
non-compliant, refuses meds
has not taken it for three days; reports daytime sedation
manipulative, attention-seeking, drug-seeking, difficult
the behaviour, the time, and the reason the person gave
The word abuse predicts that a clinician will assign blame and withhold treatment, which is why it was removed from the diagnostic vocabulary. “Committed” is a word we otherwise reserve for crimes. A toxicology result is positive or negative — people are not dirty. None of this is delicacy: the objective version is defensible, useful and true.
The nurse who lasts
Mental health nursing exposes you to other people’s trauma repeatedly, and that exposure has effects with names: compassion fatigue, vicarious trauma, moral distress, burnout. Tick anything that is true of you this month. Nothing is scored and nothing is stored.
The early signs are recognisable, and none of them mean you are weak or unsuited. They mean the work is doing what the work does.
The protections are ordinary and must be built in rather than improvised: clinical supervision or reflective practice, peer debriefing after critical incidents, real boundaries around availability, a handover complete enough that patients are not carried home, movement and sleep, and your own therapy without apology. Boundaries are a clinical skill, not coldness — consistent limits, no self-disclosure that serves you rather than the patient, no secrets kept from the team, no favourite patients treated differently — and every drift gets discussed in supervision, because the drift is the warning sign.
Some patients will die, and some will die by suicide while doing everything you asked. The response is a structured postvention: an honest review that examines the system rather than hunting an individual, contact with the family, and support for staff. A nurse who has lost a patient to suicide is a second victim, and pretending otherwise is how good nurses leave the profession.