Every sentence carries information and a message about the relationship — and it is almost always the second one that starts the fight. First, rank six real responses from most disconfirming to most confirming. Then build an XYZ statement that trades a character verdict for a behavior, a real feeling word and a dated, checkable request.
A classmate turns to you and says: “I’m really nervous about presenting tomorrow.”
Drag -free reordering — use the arrows to stack these from most disconfirming (top) to most confirming (bottom). Click any line to hear what it actually signals.
↑ Denies the personGrants the person ↓
Pick a situation
Build it: when you do X, in situation Y, I feel Z — then the request.